auryn29a: No shame. No guilt. Just hands on boobs.

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auryn29a) wrote,
@ 2008-04-21 12:00:00

Current mood:	highly amused
Entry tags:	boobs, cons

No shame. No guilt. Just hands on boobs.
There are times when you come across an idea that has such genius, such potential, that it cannot be ignored.

I give to you, theferret's Open Source Boob Project.

After reading the post, I invite you to answer this poll:

Poll #1174768 The Open Source Boob Project
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All

Would you wear a red or a green button?

View Answers

Yes
7 (25.9%)

No
11 (40.7%)

Is there an amber button?
9 (33.3%)

On giving this some thought, though I definitely endorse this project, I'm not sure I'd wear a green button. (Yeah, I know I'm male. Shut up.) My nipples are far too sensitive. Though maybe there could be an amber button for sensitive breasts.

[EDIT] I just realized I did the poll wrong. It should "red/green" not "yes/no." Oh well. You guys can figure it out.

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	mama_hogswatch 2008-04-21 04:21 pm UTC (link)
	Because it's understood a green button still means you CAN say no, sure, what the hell! (Reply to this)

	rhiannonstone 2008-04-21 04:34 pm UTC (link)
	Green button all the way, baby. (Reply to this)

	classics_cat 2008-04-21 04:35 pm UTC (link)
	Uh, no. There is a major difference between people I know touching me and random strangers touching me. You can ask, I suppose, but the answer is usually going to be no. My body is mine. It is not available for random groping. I wouldn't wear either button. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	auryn29a 2008-04-21 04:40 pm UTC (link)
	nod I respect that. In fact, I expect that response from many others. It's interesting to me to see people's views about such things. And I just realized I did the poll wrong. smacks forehead (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

classics_cat
2008-04-21 04:47 pm UTC (link)

I'm very big on bodily autonomy, for reasons I'm sure you've gathered. I don't like anything that pressures a person to allow others access to their body just because those others want it, or that stigmatizes those who won't play along.

I mean, if that's someone's thing, awesome, whatever, but I like people to keep their godsdamned distance unless I know they can be trusted. If you really want to touch me, ask me on a one-to-one basis, because that's how I'm answering.

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	stagger_lee77 2008-04-21 08:38 pm UTC (link)
	um... no. that wouldn't work unless i was drunk. and even then, i might be, grab my breasts and i kick your ass. (Reply to this)

	my_pen 2008-04-21 08:48 pm UTC (link)
	My nipples are far too sensitive. Though maybe there could be an amber button for sensitive breasts. 'XACTLY. It's a proceed with caution, 'cuz dude you SOOOO don't know what you're gonna be in for. uh huh. (Reply to this)

lucv_cate
2008-04-21 10:12 pm UTC (link)

Well, I think it can be slightly akin to girls asking me what I wear under my kilt. I do have a variety of ways of responding. Sometimes I say my boots (and let them figure out if I mean that I wear nothing under my kilt, or if I am being a wise-ass), sometimes I tell them that I cannot tell them if I am or not, and others...rarely do I ask if they want to check for themselves (but i have answered that way...depending on how I was asked).

Once, a girl asked me if I am regimental under my kilt. I told her: "now, you know that I cannot tell you that"...and in the 13 years I've been wearing a kilt...she's the only one who actually checked. (she took her time checking too...and then decided a few minutes later that she needed to check again- just to be sure...lol)

It was at DragonCon years ago, in one of the bars, while drinking at the bar (shows you how long ago it was...since I've not drank in 5 years or so). It was kind of liberating and relaxing. I do not think she meant it as a sexual act, and I was surprised to find that I did not get excited during her checking. But, I do have to admit that blood did get diverted towards the end of her 2nd checking (to which I kind of felt bad about...because I did not think she meant it as a sexual encounter)

I am a more modest person these days, and am not sure how I would react...I suppose it would be dependent on where I am (mentally as well as physically) at that moment.

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	beki 2008-04-21 11:44 pm UTC (link)
	I would rather be asked first.. Not that anyone is out to touch my breasts, but hey, you never know :) (Reply to this)(Thread)

	auryn29a 2008-04-21 11:46 pm UTC (link)
	Well yes, that is the point. Wearing the green button means you're open to being asked. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	catness 2008-04-22 04:29 am UTC (link)
	Heh. I don't like non-friends touching any other part of my body, so I doubt seriously that the open source boob project would be for me. ;) (Reply to this)

	bayushi 2008-04-23 04:40 am UTC (link)
	I would wear a red button, if I wore a button at all, just because I don't find most people attractive. Then again, the friends I have know they can always ask, anyhow, because I'll give them an honest answer. (Reply to this)

davien
2008-04-25 02:54 am UTC (link)

I doubt this is a surprise, but you would have to file me under "not a proponent".

The reasons why are probably more personal than logical. Which is not to say that I have some deep seated trauma in my personal past that makes me think what I do, but rather that my opinion about it is based more on what I feel than what I have reasoned is or is not appropriate.

While saying that one group respects the other group by asking first sounds like it keeps people on equal grounds, it doesn't. Objectifying a person reduces their personhood, even if they allow it. You can appreciate a figure or a physical achievement in art or observation, or even touch. But to do so without acknowledging the person beneath is wrong. It's a mindset that barbarians used to justify rape. It's a mindset that abusers use to justify hurting sentient animals. It's a mindset that slavers used to justify murder.

The roots of respect can be traced to the mysteries. Erasing the boundaries of intimacy takes more away from the sensual experience than it adds, even when it is applied as a cure to a repressed society. What isn't easy, what isn't so familiar that we are contemptuous, what is precious to us because of the meaning it has surely has to be the difference between flight and sorrow.

You don't have to cater to someone's every need for a decade to earn the right to a single caress, but reducing this to a button and a question from a stranger is a crass step away from civilization.

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	auryn29a 2008-04-26 10:34 pm UTC (link)
	You always leave the best comments. Maybe you should be, like, a professional pundit or something. I wrote you a very long comment ~~but I eated it~~ but I decided it might be better as a separate post. (Reply to this)(Parent)

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